Assalamualaikum & Hello everyone!
First day as husband & wife
Today Lisa akan share about my experience having long distance relationship for almost 3 years. Does it kill my relationship? Before that I will give you guys some introduction on my relationship with my husband. So we've been married for 3 years plus now. Masa tu Lisa kat KL & his in Sabah. Lisa kurang expose pasal my husband dekat socmed masa tu sbb security issue lah, Bahaya lah kan bila orang tahu that we're alone most of the time.
Before we go through LDR, kami dah berbincang to be apart until we both stable and our plan adalah untuk tunggu dia transfer drpd Sabah to KL because his family and mine is in here. Our first year of LDR didn't go well as our plan bila mana masa ni dah mula lupa pasal misi untuk tunggu both stable and wait for him to comeback. I can bet there's a lot of cases of LDR ni when one decided to change the plan and the wife need to follow her husband.
Masa ni dah dgr macam-macam drpd orang sekeliling pasal agama yang isteri patut ikut kemana sahaja suami dia pergi & kena percaya pada rezeki yang Allah SWT bagi. Trust the process etc etc. To be honest Lisa percaya dengan rezeki yang Allah SWT dah janjikan tu but I don't trust myself sbb kalau Lisa move to Sabah, Lisa akan jobless sbb kat Sabah tak ada kerja (this is a fact) sebab it's not in KK or tempat-tempat yang banyak company to work with.
So I've decided not to move sbb I know how it will turned out to be bila dah sampai sana, we will have issue with the house. Nak stay mana? We will have issue with money. Since dia sorang jee yang bekerja, I can imagine how stressful the situation is. Tipulah kalau dalam masa takde duit tu dia boleh happy-happy and bersyukur sepanjang masa asalkan isteri dia ada. The stress of the husband will be yours too. Bila dah susah kita akan start susah kan orang lain. Orang-orang yang nasihat kita pasal agama dulu tu akan tolong kita tak? or akan mengata kita? Think wisely. This is real story sbb we don't have rich parents yang akan provide us money. We are 100% on our own.
Kita yang lebih kenal siapa diri kita & bukan orang lain. After the stressful year of our first year of marriage, Alhamdulillah we get through it for the second year until Allah SWT bagi rezeki dia balik & I'm pregnant 4 months masa tu. I will give you guys some advise bagi yang tengah go through LDR dengan pasangan. So here's some tips :
1. Kenali potensi diri.
Tips first dah mcm tips business dah tapi betul lah, kenali potensi diri korang. Boleh ke mengharungi dugaan-dugaan along the way of LDR tu nanti? Kalau rasa kalah dengan godaan perempuan lain ke apa ke tak payah lah ambik risiko. Cari jalan lain.
2. Sabar.
Biasanya LDR ni orang buat bersebab & bukannya forever nak jarak jauh jadi kena banyak sabar & fikir balik kenapa korang decide untuk jauh. Mostly yang jauh ni untuk masa depan yang cerah. It won't take forever of your life pun so be patient and stick to the niat why you choose the path.
3. Jangan dengar cakap orang because you know yourself better than others.
There's a time orang akan start bising-bising pasal agamalah, pasal curang lah pasal bahaya lah apa lah. Mmg apa yang orang cakap tu ada betulnya tapi kita lagi tahu how to valuate pasangan kita. Berjauhan ni hanya untuk sementara & untuk valid reason. Bukan suka-suka nak jauh.
4. Both husband & wife kena consistent with the plan unless the change are for the better reason.
To go through LDR both parties kena help each others and kena saling ingatkan diri why we go through this again and kena lah avoid benda-benda yang tak diingini drpd berlaku. You're the control of yourself bukan orang lain. So elakkan drpd buat perangai. Kalau rasa tak mampu change the plan so it can avoid problems in the future.
Banyak lagi tips lain but I don't like my blog meleret-leret so that will be all, thank you for spent the time to read ! Till next time ♥
